So last night did not go to plan.
I really respect my in-laws, but occasionally my soon to be mother in law makes less than polite comments. I don't actually think she knows she's doing it most of the time though so at least that's something.... At the end of the day I'm marrying Alex, not her parents, and as much as I would love to have a great relationship with them, I have to remember that.
Having said this, I did get a little upset last night (there's only so many comments a person can take!) and so, cue Daddy. Every girl needs their Daddy from time to time and I'm no exception. After an hour on the phone he had calmed me down, given me some good advice and cheered me up all in one go. Albeit his advice was quite passionate to say the least, it was quite akin to someone taking down a rebel force somewhere ha, but I know it's because he loves me and hates to see me upset.
His parting words to me were that he would leave me some money on my dressing table (they're going away to China and Japan, not Vietnam it turns out, on Friday) and that 'when all else fails, take the girls and go shopping, that'll cheer you up'. Bless him <3 He's kind of a Gok Wan at heart.
Now I'm not insinuating that he's left me his credit card to go wild with, I'm not that much of a Daddy's girl, and this is not a regular occurrence, in-fact it's a pretty rare occurrence. I never ask my parents for money, I've had a job since I was 12 until I started Uni and now I'll be doing freelance work hopefully, and there's always summer jobs. So he must have been feeling sorry for me!
I really empathise with you after reading this post! I am a similar position with my father in law - he is always making not - so - pleasant comments and I am not sure why! I hope it gets a bit easier :-) shopping is always good! I love a bit of retail therapy x
ReplyDeleteApparently it's because I'm a woman so I've just found out. Although I'm somewhat dubious as that seems to be the reason for everything. I don't mean to toot my own trumpet but she could have done a lot worse... But alas I will never be good enough. Good luck with your father in law, by the sounds of things we both need it! x
DeleteGo and spend, it always cheers me up. From what I hear if you have a great guy the in laws are usually a pain. Hope things get better. xx
ReplyDeleteOr girl in my case! :) x
DeleteI really sympathise with you on this, I have a lot of trouble with my fiancee's parents making comments and generally looking down their nose at me. Stay strong and enjoy some time shopping with your girls :) xx
ReplyDeleteI've just done exactly that! :) It's really awful isn't it? :( Good luck with yours <3 x
DeleteHey Lea, luckily I have amazing future in-laws and get on really well with them, but my sister not so much! Her mother in-law cam be a right nosey pain sometimes and often forgets about other people feelings. In general she is a nice lady, but just doesn't know when to but out! It's cause my sister a lot of upset but in the end it's worth it! You are getting ready to spend your life with the person you love the most, not their parents! You're totally right there. Just keep remembering that THEIR daughter loves you because you're an amazing woman!
ReplyDeleteGo take it out on the shops girl!
Hannah x confessioncloset.blogspot.com
This is so true! You're really lucky to have great in-laws, but I feel really sorry for your sister. I have that problem almost exactly and it sucks :( x
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