Wednesday, 25 July 2012

The Gay Post




Okay, here we go!

This is something that I've thought about doing for a while, but the timing has never seemed right, but with me now approaching 300 followers (whoa, could I just say, thankyou all so much!) I thought now was a good a time as ever. I have always been a little afraid of backlash from this, but over time I have realised that I have never been subject to homophobia on my blog, something I am very grateful of, and which I feel really reflects on the wonderful and open minded followers that you all are.

As most of you will know, I am in-fact gay. It's not something that I have ever hidden on my blog as I feel that I spent such a long time hiding it when I was younger, I don't ever want to do that again. However, I'm always conscious that I shouldn't constantly ram gay issues down peoples throats - you're not here to read about that, it's a beauty and lifestyle blog after all!

When I meet new people in real life and they find out that Alex is a woman, I almost always get a lot of questions. When people think of 'gay' women, there's a pre-conceived idea that I don't fit with, and people find it shocking and intriguing. Over the years I have also been a bit of a support system to some people who are coming to terms with a person who they are close to coming out of the closet; when they don't feel that they can ask that person questions, they come to me. I also know that there are a lot of people who have questions but are afraid to ask them for fear of upsetting that person, so they never ask, and never get their answers.

In light of this I have decided to put this out there and invite you to ask me anything that you might have a question about, whether it's about gay issues in general, or myself personally, as I'm always open to my followers getting to know me better. Please don't be afraid of offending me, as I have a very thick skin and I don't mind at all. If it's gay related, you can ask me whatever is on your mind.

I'm aware that some people won't like this post, and I may lose a few followers along the way, but I feel that for the benefit of even one person who has a burning question that they want to ask, it's worth it.

I thought I'd kick start things with a few bits of information about myself and gay issues in general.
  • LGBT stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender - our symbol is the rainbow (amongst others).
  • Some people don't like to be categorised, and some women reject the term 'lesbian' in favour of 'gay'. I personally used to dislike lesbian, but have since become much more accepting of the term. I still generally use gay though.
  • I came out when I was 17, and had a very rough time. Things went very badly for me but have since improved greatly, and now things are fine.
  • I had my first girlfriend when I was 15/16.
  • I realised I was gay when I was 15.
  • I have had 3 serious girlfriends.
  • I am what is referred to as a 'femme' lesbian.
  • I don't believe in gay marriage (I know this one is the shocker, it's for reasons you probably wouldn't expect)
I hope I haven't offended anyone with this post.
If you have a question that you feel is very personal or on a matter close to your heart, please feel free to email me at suchawonderfullife@hotmail.com.

Lea
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45 comments:

  1. Good for you sweet heart for being so honest, I know a lot of people who are gay, and I support everyone of them including you!
    xoxo
    Kelsey

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    1. That is a lovely thing to hear, and I really appreciate it. The people in your life are very lucky <3 x

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  2. Such a lovely post- well done hun:) xx

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    1. Thankyou, I just hope it doesn't all backfire on me haha x

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  3. One thing I've never been able to understand is people that have a problem with a different sexuality. I'd love to hear why you don't support gay marriage :) x

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    1. To some people it's a big deal, I've had to learn to bite my tongue these days! I'll be doing a post on my gay marriage opinion since a lot of people are interested, so keep a look out for it :). Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  4. ohhhh I would also be really interested to know what you think about gay marriage, also religion, if you wouldn't mind sharing?
    In case you feel uncomfortable talking about it rest assured my mind is full of incredibly liberal thoughts almost to the point where it annoys everyone else - I'm just interested in your views!:)

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    1. I'll be doing a post on my gay marriage opinion since a lot of people are interested, so keep a look out for it :) I'll also include a bit about religion too since it'd be a bit long to put in here haha! Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  5. Wonderful post! You are entitled to not only be who you are, but to believe the things you choose to believe. Go you! I'm also curious about the marriage stance. You should elaborate! I'd love to know more :)

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    1. Thankyou, if all the people in the world had the same opinion as you it would be a better place, but unfortunately some people are a little more backwards in their thinking! I'll be doing a post on my gay marriage opinion since a lot of people are interested, so keep a look out for it :). Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  6. good on you for doing this post!
    i only starting following you a couple days ago and it really doesnt bother me in the slightest. if people liked you before they shouldnt think any differently of you now and if they have a problem, they're not worth your time :) x

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    1. Thankyou :) I'm really glad to hear that, I was a slight bit worried that some of my 'newer' followers would twig at a later date and it would become a bit of a thing, so I thought I'd put it out there!
      That is a great attitude to have, and one I've had to work on a lot in the past few years, but I'm finally getting the hang of it. Thankyou for your lovely comment :) x

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  7. Great post! I have a lot of gay and bisexual friends, and grew up kind of instictively supporting gay rights as a result. I hadn't originally planned to ask anything, but I'm very curious as to why you don't believe in gay marriage? I've never heard any of my LGBT friends say this, and I would love to know your thoughts, if you feel like sharing.

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    1. That's great, I think it's a really important thing that kids grow up not alienated from it or thinking that it's something 'odd'. It just makes things so much harder for all parties involved later in life!
      I'll be doing a post on my gay marriage opinion since a lot of people are interested, so keep a look out for it :). Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  8. Well done, you should be very proud of yourself for writing this. :-)

    Amy xxx

    www.serendipitybeautyblog.blogspot.com

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    1. Thankyou, that means a lot :) I'm really pleased with the response I have gotten from this post :) Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  9. You have a lot of courage and are a beautiful person! I completely respect you
    <3
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    1. That is a very beautiful comment and I whole heartedly appreciate it. Thankyou so much x

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  10. I think its great youve spoken out about this on your blog - i hope it gives confidence to those who havent yet spoken about their feelings/worries etc..
    I have a friend at uni who is gay and hes has such a hard time growing up & telling his family..it took him ages to tell me he was even though i kind of already knew. It shouldnt be such a 'big deal' and its something that has never bothered or offended me in the slightest..
    What a lovely post, and one that is refreshing to see. xx

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    1. Well I've had a few emails, so I'm really pleased I took the plunge and put it out there :)
      It's a really hard thing to do, coming out. But it's an amazing feeling once it's over. Even if it's a year down the line when the dust settles. I hope your friend has peace with it now.
      Thankyou so much for your lovely comment :) x

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  11. What a great post! Thanks so much for sharing, I know it must have taken some courage. I support people of all sexuality 100%, and if someone says otherwise, then screw 'em! I would love to know why you don't support gay marriage though!

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    1. That is fantastic to hear, what a wonderful attitude!
      I'll be doing a post on my gay marriage opinion since a lot of people are interested, so keep a look out for it :). Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  12. I love this post. Thank you for sharing this one with us!

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    xx

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    1. Thankyou for taking the time to comment on it, I'm glad you enjoyed it :) x

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  13. I think it's great you've written this post, I would be interested in reading your views on gay marriage xx

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    1. Thankyou so much. :)
      I'll be doing a post on my gay marriage opinion since a lot of people are interested, so keep a look out for it :). Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  14. Great post! It must have taken a lot of courage to write this! I have lots of friends who are gay and I was so proud of them when they came out! I am now following you :)
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    1. Coming out can be an incredibly intense and frightening experience, but one that is so worth it in the long run! Thankyou so much for following me and for your lovely comment :) x

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  15. Wonderful post Lea - you are brave and I'm sure it will be such encouragement to others who might be struggling with accepting who they are.

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    1. I really do hope so :)
      Thankyou for your wonderful comment, I really appreciate it x

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  16. Its funny, two of my best friends are gay men and they don't believe in gay marriage either.

    I wouldn't worry, I'm sure nobody is going to be offended by anything :)

    xxx

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    1. No, there are a few of us out there who don't believe in it, but we're a rare breed! May I ask why it is that they don't believe in it?
      Thankyou for your lovely comment :) x

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    2. They both have different opinions on it.

      One thinks that gay men in general don't "mate for life" and will generally not be able to live by the same vows that heterosexual couples can supposedly live by, and also says that its hypocritical for gay marriage to be allowed when marriage is a religious communion of two people and no religions are openly accepting of gay people in the first instance.

      The other one is just a bit of an oddball in general and despite being a gay man, also says that gay people freak him out and really doesn't like overt displays of affection between gay people - marriage being one of them! (He is rather peculiar!)

      On the other hand, one of my other best friends is a gay man who got married this year and is very happy, and I know they'll be together forever :)

      I also know two lesbian couples (one had a civil partnership a couple of years ago, one who are fighting for the right to gay marriage) who believe strongly in it.

      Its just each to their own I guess

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    3. I completely agree; it's each to their own.
      I don't agree with your male friends point of view, but I understand it - the religious argument especially.
      Thankyou for sharing that with me, it was very interesting! x

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  17. thanks for the love honey, I'm following you now :)
    My best guy friend is gay and I love him with all my heart even though his parents are not accepting at this point.
    You are brave, and you will gain support for being true to yourself.

    A
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    1. Thankyou so much :)
      I wish your friend all the luck in the world. It took my parents a year to get over themselves but they have done now and the tables have completely turned, hopefully it'll be the same for him.
      Thankyou for your lovely comment x

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  18. thank you for sharing! it is so nice that you are not shame of yourself and you can be honest :-) you go girl! :-)

    and I have to mention.. in this profile picture you look so flawless! what foundation are you currently using?:-)

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    1. No, I'm not ashamed of myself in any way, I don't see any reason to be :) Thanks :) Your comment really means the world to me.
      I'm wearing Vichy Dermablend, I have scars so I have to use heavy duty foundation.
      Thanks for your lovely comment :) x

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  19. Such a refreshing and honest post :-) x

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    1. Thankyou very much, I'm glad you enjoyed it x

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  20. This was a really nice post to read lea and I am quite sickened at the fact that people can be so shallow minded as to unfollow you because of your sexuality, blogging is supposed to be about sharing your thoughts and opinions in a place where there is no judgement.. I'm pretty sure you have read multiple posts where people droan on about a beauty product they really dislike and I'm sure you don't always agree yet I'm also sure you don't stop following that blog just because of it. You are such a beautiful woman and your posts are a pleasure to read.. It's nice to see someone who writes about real issues and opens up about things like this blogging for most people is about showing off and competition instead of being true.

    Xxx

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    1. Thankyou so much for this comment, I think your point about the beauty products is amazing! And so true!
      I'm glad you feel this way, it's a credit to you. If only all the other people were of this opinion life would be a lot easier! X

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  21. This post is so inspirational :) I was so sad to read that people had left because of it though but luckily every cloud has a silver lining.

    Beth x

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    1. It does indeed, and I'm so grateful for everyone who has said that. You're all such lovely people <3 x

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